Something we're often told, as a way of inspiration, is: take the leap, fly, and the net will appear. And I like the idea of taking changes and leaps and going into the unknown, to some degree.
But what happens... if the net doesn't appear?
I love this new podcast (new to me anyway - I can't believe I've only just discovered it the last few months!), for their real, honest and love-filled answers. On it, someone recently asked this question. Or really, shared their experience of leaping - all out leaping, taking a huge risk, involving others (and lots of $$) - and then falling flat on their face.
And she was angry. She was pissed! She'd been promised this idea that if you go hard, if you follow your dreams, everything turns out peachy. That old chestnut.
I don't remember the details of her story, I don't remember - word for word - their advice, but this idea of faith and leaping also came up when I was chatting with a friend recently. This idea that if you do the work, you'll get the rewards. And frankly, that promise, well, that's a bit of bullshit right there.
I'm all for the idea of manifesting if it soothes your soul and gives you hope - but to believe that just by 'thinking' and dreaming and vision boarding enough, you'll get your hearts desire, I call bullshit.
I love a vision board (virtual though it may be, thanks Pinterest). I love self-help books. I am the queen of dreaming. I also do therapy, I practice yoga, I meditate... and life still happens. Over and over. And LIFE is up and down, sunny and overcast, life is life. This labelling of it as good or bad does a whole lot of upsetting, it causes separation (you know, I shouldn't be feeling this, but that etc etc), and it's not super useful all the time.
There's a whole lot of hard work in life - there's also a whole lot of timing, of luck, of the sun being in the sky at just the right angle, the sliding doors moments of life. Life isn't always fair. Whatever. I think though, IF ONLY we were so powerful that we could control everything. Ha! Yes, we have the power to respond to our life, we have the power to make the next right decision.
But wouldn't life be a little lighter, and more smooth if we could take life as it comes and not so goddamn down or like we have failed because shit happened?
It's kind of insulting to say that ones' depression or hardship is because they're not doing X enough or dreaming of Y big enough etc. And it's just not kind or compassionate in any way at all.
To take life's experiences, to hold yourself when you're doing it tough, to be your own best friend throughout, and to be kind when you're freefalling without a net (rather than beating yourself up or comparing yourself to the person next to you who apparently has the manifesting thing down pat), that's the life I want to be part of.
Speaking of all things compassionate, I've just signed up to do this course and can't wait. Anyone else keen? xo